Last summer (I remember it like it was yesterday,) I called my friend Dexter to consult him about a "man issue" I was having. This was not unusual, as I always called him when I needed an ear to listen and good sound advice. As always Dexter sat and listened to every detail as I gave him the "run down" on this guy..he never interrupted he just took it all in before rendering his verdict on the case I was presenting. His verdict (which ALWAYS seemed to be the same *smile*) was that I was "TOO DAMN PICKY". After discussing the situation a little longer we gave the usual "I'll call you RIGHT back" and got off the phone..only to play phone tag for the rest of the evening. Little did I know this conversation would be my last with my friend. The next day Dexter was involved in a fatal motorcycle accident which took him away from us far too soon.
When I first heard the news about Dexter's passing I was CRUSHED (and even that word is not an accurate description of the heartache I felt.) I didn't understand WHY God would allow this to happen! Dexter didn't deserve to die...he was young, a great father, and getting ready to finish school that fall.
After questioning God, I then remembered how the weekend before his death Dexter tried getting in contact with me. I spoke with him briefly then quickly got off the phone as I was rushing to get on the road to Chicago. Then (and this was the hardest pill to swallow,) I remembered that my LAST conversation with my friend was about some guy who wouldn't even matter in a months time! How could I be so selfish? A conversation where I could have told him how much I loved and appreciated his friendship, and I spent it talking about someone who could have cared less!
I am writing this in hope that one of you will take a lesson from me and STOP WASTING TIME by entertaining the thoughts, people and situations that don't really matter. I know (more than anyone right now) how difficult this can be. We all lead these busy lives where we are constantly faced with situations and can become overwhelmed with the thoughts of what our reactions should be. I challenge you the next time you feel a situation starting to overwhelm you, to call your friend and instead of only talking about YOUR problems..tell them how much you love and appreciate them. I will never get that last conversation back with Dexter, and as for the guy I was talking to him about...haven't spoken with him since (go figure.)
DON'T WASTE TIME...SPEND YOUR TIME WORRYING ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO TRULY MATTER! Be blessed! And Dexter...continue to look down on us...I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU ALWAYS :)