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Why do we as woman let the men in our lives get the best of us?
You say you want to be with me but right now isn’t a good time
You say you don’t want a relationship
You say you haven’t forgiven us for things that happened before you
You say you love me
You say I was your first true love
You say I mean the world to you
These are all the things that we as women hear either throughout or at the end of the relationship. The moment a man sees that another man is interested in what you have to offer, they want to be with you. They stop playing all the games and show up unannounced to places in order to express their undying love for you. Women become frustrated with these displays of affection. Just a second ago the man was known for acting like a little boy. Now he can’t accept the fact that another man is taking his place. Majority of the time we (women) have not moved on and we decide to give up on the new love interest for the old one. Deep down inside we really love and care about the old love (guy) and we want it to work. You take all the bad and the good into consideration in order to make the relationship work. The old flame is telling you exactly what you want to hear and you as a woman believe deep down in your heart that this guy is really serious (or is he?). You give him another chance only to find out that he didn’t mean what he said. When it does not work the old flame blames the failed relationship on not being able to forgive or trust you for dealing with the new guy. The sad thing is why should you feel bad when you and the old guy were not even in a committed relationship when the new guy came into the picture.
Now ladies this is a shock to us, because ultimately you let the new guy go for the old guy. You now can see the mistake you have made. Reality is the new guy was probably the one who was willing to do any and everything you wanted the new guy to do. At the end of the day, did you really just fall for this mess again? Ladies were you sticking with the old guy and taking all his bull-ish because you feel as though you owed him? Finally as a woman, you decide that it is better to go separate ways and keep it moving. You decide to make things work with the new guy (yes after all that drama he took you back with open arms). You and the new guy make it work and eventually wed. Yet, you often think of the old guy. Still unable to completely let him go. You continue to talk to the old guy and often confide in him. Deep down inside you still care, but you also know that the old guy still has a lot of growing to do. Do the questions remain or do you do what is best? Now you must do what may be difficult, but all communication must come to an end. In the words of Usher, “Let it Burn”. Live your life stress free and with no regrets. If it didn’t work with the old guy consider it a lesson learned and make it last with the new guy.
-J-BEZZY!!!!!!!!!