For many people 2010 seems to be a year that holds so much promise and change. For the sake of marriages I hope 2010 exceeds expectations because 2009 was the year of the Home Wreckers (Jump-offs, Sidepieces, or whatever you like to call them). They were definitely in full effect, with mistresses capitalizing on their fifteen minutes of fame. Most of the women had no shame in their games. Selling their stories to the highest bidder at the drop of a dime. We have all seen the stories and reports about Tiger Woods and his many mistresses. Kim Zolciak (Real Housewives of Atlanta) getting engaged to a married man?!?! (Where they do that at?) We also witnessed the aftermath of the tragic events that transpired between Steve McNair and his mistress, which ended with a murder-suicide. Will 2010 be any different? Will more married men be exposed? Families destroyed? Or will both men and women decide to take their marital vows seriously and honor them? (At this rate, I will be single forever! SMH)
The latest story about a mistress is a scandal juicy enough for a daytime soap opera. A woman by the name of YaVaughnie Wilkins has been the mistress of Charles Phillips, an executive at Oracle, for over eight (8) years. Mr. Phillips is also an adviser to President Obama. I guess it is true what they say; there is nothing like a woman scorned. Ms. Wilkins has taken revenge into her own hands and exposed the relationship between her and Mr. Phillips who is still legally married. According to the Boston Herald, Ms. Wilkins took out billboards in New York City, Atlanta, and San Francisco. The billboards included pictures of the couple in happier times. There was also a link to a website dedicated to the couple chronicling their 8 year relationship. All the trips (vacays), kissy face pictures, and messages that Mr. Phillips sent Ms. Wilkins over the years. She took it upon herself to put Mr. Phillips on blast for whatever indiscretions he has committed. Now it seems as if there is a twist to this story, even though it is still unfolding. Ms. Wilkins is claiming that Mr. Phillips portrayed himself as being divorced. Ms. Wilkins even claims that she was introduced to others as Mr. Philips’ girlfriend. If Mr. Phillips deceived Ms. Wilkins is she a victim or still considered a home wrecker? In these instances (when we don’t know the whole story) do we still blame the female? Should both parties be held responsible? If both parties were aware of spouses, children, and etc., yet still decided to continue with the relationship then both parties should be held responsible. Point Blank Period. (Again, this is just my opinion).
When did it become cool to be second best? Brandy said, “Almost doesn’t count”!! All these years I thought it didn’t count. Maybe second best is not bad until s%#$ hits the fan! My favorite motto is “I don’t like to be embarrassed”, but damn it seems like embarrassment and scandal is very popular these days. Some people have no morals or respect for themselves and this behavior will continue as long as it is allowed. Mistresses and cheating men don’t discriminate. Scandal is rampant in the work place, churches, professional sports, entertainment industry, (from what I hear groupies and check chasers have no limits) and even in the suburbs and the hood. I will never forget a very important person telling me about a pastor whose mistress should up at church and during the offering and walked around the church placed a sonogram picture on the First Lady’s lap! *take me now* Just an example that shows that there are no boundaries in this game called love, people will do whatever under the guise of emotions. When the s*&% hits the fan no one is safe. So beware of those you trust with your ♥’s . If the relationship is not working just be truthful and don’t substitute for another. The grass is not greener on the other side. (It may just look that way).
Sources Boston Herald, Gawker