Yea...I said it..this is the post of an "Angry Black Woman" I decided to go ahead and put that out there..before you guys..now to the point of this post:
"Don't talk about it anymore"
"It's not going to last"
"He still likes you"
"He NEVER really cared"
This is the BULL you, me and every other woman around the world has at some point heard. So what do you do? First, you sit around "in your feelings" questioning WHY? Why again am I the one experiencing the emotional rollercoaster known as "dating." You try not to think about it, but that only makes you think about it MORE! You try to get out and get your mind off of it, only to come home to MORE stories about him and the new girl (dont forget to say congrats.) How are you feeling now? A little sad, or maybe hurt..wait no..are you mad yet?
But then you get to the real insanity of the situation...because you see no matter what emotion you are feeling, you still need MORE information. I'm talking about all of the intimate details that you for some reason torment yourself with...for what?! Is it changing anything? Do you feel better now? Oh no...now you are more mad...wait..have you started feeling crazy yet? There is only one thing you know for sure at this point, and that is this situation did not have to go down the way it did.
So lets get to the real root of the problem. It's the one word that we are all capable of doing, but for some reason SELDOM do. Are you ready for this? It's called telling the TRUTH! When you are true to yourself you are in turn truthful with other people. Which eliminates MOST "dating situations." We have to stop worrying about hurting peoples feelings by telling the truth, because in the end you hurt a person more with your HALF TRUTHS. You know the deal when you don't really say yes...but then you don't really say no. Which leaves one party with ALL the confusion and resentment. It's time for us to GROW UP AND KEEP IT REAL!
Now lets get to the CLASSIC "I want to be your friend" spill...really? So what you are telling me is that after you have proven youself to be dishonest, coniving and hey lets face it a PUNK you want to be my FRIEND? Boy I tell you, with friends like that who would really need enemies? How could I trust you? How would this work? I would call you my "friend" knowing that everything that comes out of your mouth is a lie? Lets cut the crap, and get to the point...STOP TRYING TO ACT LIKE YOU WANT TO BE MY FRIEND! You don't!! If there is one thing I am sure of in the midst of all this confusion it's that you are NOT my friend! You just dont want to look like the "bad guy"..well my brutha if the shoe fits...WEAR IT!
Lastly, fellas I need answers. Answers that unfortunately are not in Uncle Steve's book "Act like a Lady, Think like a Man." WHY after all of the madness do you feel the need to maintain any form of contact? You act like you want to be left alone..but when we do just that, you do EVERYTHING you can to try to keep some communication going? Arent you involved? Why are you wasting the time and energy? WHATS THE POINT?
In Hill Harper's book "The Conversation" he urges us to start TALKING. It's time to be OPEN AND HONEST about things. I'm not talking about text messages, twitter messages, or facebook messages...I am talking about the "old school" ONE-ON-ONE human interaction that lacks in the dating world these days. Please...lets all take the first step and start BEING HONEST...cut the games (wishful thinking on my part because some of you are sitting there thinking of the next lie you are going to tell!)
Rev Run says "Don't build walls, build bridges" this is easier said than done when you are hurt, but I am going to do everything in my power to do just that. I mean after all...they are "just feelings"...right?
But one last thing..in an attempt to get on the same page for ONCE, keep your friendship! I'm not quite sure where you would fit in my circle anyways. Nas said it best "Chicks with dicks dont belong in your click"
Signing Off,
Mad for now, but I WILL laugh later!
Who knew Ashanti would have such an appropriate song for this...check it!