So I didn't think my mini vacay to Vegas for the Mayweather vs. Mosley fight could be topped (this year that is), but boy was I wrong!!!! This past week I had the pleasure of attending a wedding in the Bahamas. I was on hand to witness the Union of Donrien Stephens and Carline Claudomir. It was a beautiful beach wedding in Nassau, Bahamas. The wedding party and guests came together for a cruise to the Bahamas in order to attend and celebrate in this joyous occasion with the couple. It was so refreshing to meet wonderful and warm people during my stay(we had fun times indeed). I was honored that Carline and Donrien invited me to witness such an important milestone in their lives.
Now after attending the wedding I started to think (as all great minds do lol)Does Real Love even exist anymore? Better yet does Black Love still exist? Does it survive obstacles, Distance and Time? (maybe its not a good idea to quote A.Keys given her home wrecking status j/k). When in the presence of real love, you can feel the love, sincerity, and genuineness the couple emits. Some people tend to say that BLACK LOVE is dead, well I'm here to put that ish to rest (for now that is LOL). I experienced first hand the real BLACK LOVE that we tend to overlook.
It seems we are moving to fast to notice lasting relationships these days. When I say "moving to fast" I mean the social networking, texting, emails, speed dating and etc. What happened to the meaningful conversations either face to face or over the telephone? What happened to getting to know someone inside and out? Not just by looking at their Facebook profiles and taking notes! (that doesn't count) Now I will be the first to admit that I don't like talking to people (no really), however I do believe that some things are necessary to build lasting relationships. I think if a person makes the interaction worth while then people will be willing to put in the work. Most people barely know their mates these days and when you began to see the "real" person it is often too late. (Let's not forget that GOOGLE is a hell of a tool use it).
I know in the past (past blogs) I have "went in" on men in general and the single life, but some things are a bit clearer after this wedding *epiphany*. People just don't stay married for 50 years anymore like our Grandparents did so effortlessly (at least it looked that way ;-)). Is that because we are quitters? Are we not willing to fight for love? I would say so because of all the outsider factors that we use to distract us when we should be fighting for love. You know the friends who are the peanut gallery and/or you may think the grass is greener on the other side (well it aint). These small factors can create big problems and lead to Splitsville. In order to avoid these pitfalls you have to put your best foot forward. It is also as simple as saying "You get out what you put in" (or something like that, yall know the saying). So to those of us still looking for BLACK LOVE or LOVE in general, it seems that there is still hope for us if we are willing to work for it. Donrien and Carline's hard work paid off! Are you willing to work? I sure am!! *raises hand*
It warms my soul to see real Love and even more to see BLACK LOVE. "Keep Hope Alive" as Jesse would say, but I am in no rush. Patiently awaiting the next wedding invitation (accepting invites) to experience BLACK LOVE up close and personal once again.
Shout out to all my new HOMIES I met during the Wedding Festivities. We had a ball and it was certainly a pleasure. Thanks again to Mr. & Mrs. Stephens for the invite. Congrats on a journey to a LIFETIME OF LOVE!!!